Sunday, January 17, 2010

问神,情为何物…

常常都说 问世间情为何物,直教人生死相许? 其实爱情到底是什么呢?基本上,我都认为人在不同年龄的阶段,都会展现不同的爱情观念,就有如以下的推断:~

男孩子在小学时,也许就会觉得爱情是种恶心的事情,想到了,都想呕吐。但是女子呢,她们就不同;她们的爱情就像是童话般那么完美,所谓的 “永远幸福快乐”(Happily Ever After)。这时候的男孩都只爱玩耍,而女子应该都会是暗恋帅哥老师的吧~

到了中学时期呢,男子与女子多半对爱情的观点是一样的吧。男子就爱耍帅,而女子呢,却想追求浪漫的爱情。其实无论男女都希望爱情是浪漫甜蜜的,就有如戏剧的男女主角,都希望爱得轰轰烈烈,而所谓的浪漫便是不必负上责任的行为。大家也许会在这时候被伤害过后变得成熟,也有的继续沉沦,毁了应有美好的前途。

大学呢?大家大概都还是追求浪漫的爱情吧,但已经不是轰轰烈烈的爱了,而是温柔优雅,细水长流似的爱情。尽管如此,女子还是希望男子多做一些依稀浪漫的事情,而男子却绞尽脑汁想了不同的浪漫招数。无论是告白,也许是赢取对方的心房,男子都会不顾一切的付出,而女子却希望是自己喜欢的男子像那般的对待自己。相同的是,这阶段的爱情依然是带给彼此成熟的经历,让大家对爱情再度改观。因为,爱情在开始的时候总是甜蜜的,而日子长了,得靠彼此的努力和心思来维持 正所谓,相爱容易,相处难。真爱并不是那么容易便可得取的。

到了工作的时代 ,相信大家有另一番的爱情观点,这时候的大家,都想要一个肯定的爱情,而不是一时冲动的感觉了。这时候的大家,都是“玩不起”的时候了,都是认真地选择自己的终生伴侣。因为这时候的大家开始‘老’了,应该说脑笋完全长大了想着未来的的生活应该是平稳的。是的,大家这时候的爱情观念是稳重型的,不希望有太大的起伏。也许会听到有的人说:“单身好啊,自由自在。” 你可以去告诉他:“不要欺骗自己了”。很肯定的是,当年龄越来越接近30岁的时候,很自然的事就会越来越当心,而过了一定的时间,如果还是单身的话,也许就会接受命运过着一个人的生活吧~

至于结婚的年代过后,正常的人,丈夫就会努力工作,来维持家里的需要,甚至想尽办法使家庭可以拥有更幸福的日子(物质上的追求);而妻子呢,也有工作,但更想的是为丈夫生宝宝,组织健康快乐的家庭(精神上的追求)。这时候,大家的爱情观点 爱情是家庭,而宝宝便是彼此真爱的结晶品。当然,生活之间少不了争执,而彼此的心态将会影响家庭里的所有成员,他们的心理,他们的观点,便会是从家里发生的事情而形成的。之所以,情侣 兼父母的,是负责任的,便会时常三思,一边确保幸福长在。

在不久(或许是很久)的将来,情侣便希望一起慢慢变老,希望子孙玉满堂,家和万事兴,安安稳稳的过着剩余的人生。而最悲哀的,莫过于看着自己的另一半慢慢衰退,不小心离开自己,却让自己变得孤单。~人生便是如此~

在爱情的路上,难免会有种种的波折;可悲的是,有很多人因为意外而不小心出轨了,走入歪路,对看不到的爱情路而变得不正确,便开始不相信那正确的路是可行的,也因此想自己闯出新路,但往往越闯越糟。而也许,有的人因为小时候家里某某事情的关系,对爱情从一开始便不是如上文所叙说的那般观点。之所以每个人都有自己不同版本的爱情路,正确或不正确,相信目标的终点都是一样的 。但,因为不正确的路,便不能到达所设定的目的地,直到有人可以引导他们归至正确的轨道,而再度改变了他们的爱情路。

不晓得你的观点又会是什么呢?是否与我的观点一样呢?

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Yes, God Has Given More Than Enough, BUT…

Yeah, I always think God has always been giving people more than enough either for those who have faith in Him or NOT … oh well, how many says:

1. “God’s gracious, I’m blessed with what He gives me…”

2. “I’m not asking more but I’m complaining…”

3. “It’s not enough, I need more… I want more…”

Now, this is a point where honesty in heart plays the role and you could speak to your own heart. Guess what? I think I’m in the second category. I know life’s not bad but yet, my life doesn’t seem to be pleasing… It’s always like “I’ve everything yet I’ve nothing”. Life has never been great ever since “don’t-know-when”; I say it’s the time when I got my conscience knowing I’d have to eventually separate from parents and bear my own living.

I bet many falls into the third line – wanting more in their life. Commonly, we would find more of these people in big city (which happen that I’m in one). How does this happen? Well, civilization has brought humanity lots of pleasure in living; cool gadgets, delicious delicacies, vigorous technology, fantastic entertainment… blah blah blah… blah blah blah. All the things you could think of, the wealthier the city is, the better it is equipped.

I’m just glad I’m not born in a big city with a hectic life but I’m sure to live one right now. Well, maybe some (or more) like such life feeling it will bring them more excitement or hope… but I would rather say big city confuse people of what they really need and instead, pursue something which is meaningless after all but appears to be meaningful in a temporary sense.

Life has never been desperate as ever and it still could get worse… People say:”you will get attached with this life after a time…” yeah, I sure will but doesn’t mean that I will eventually love this kind of life. Everyday feeling squeezed in LRT, walking in dusty streets blackening your lungs, work pressure where you have to learn everything from nothing. It’s a tiring life…

Alright, here comes the moment of truth… The truth is – Different people receive the same pay but different people are required different effort in their job. The positive thinking would be – “yeah, I’m more capable that others, that’s why I’m bearing more responsibilities”; and the negative thinking would be – “who cares?”

Hmm… at the end of the day, I should be thanking for the blessings I got after all. Not everybody would have such a good life I’m living… All of all, it’s like – when you compare with the better, it’s not enough but when you compare with the worse, it’s more than enough” (比上不足,比下有余).

God bless, bless me not to be greedy and worry in and about life… Amen~!!

Back In Business...

Yeah, I’m supposed to be back in business with a new look… Unfortunately, I’m lack of expertise in HTML. But Hallelujah, I bump into Yen Mei in the middle and force her to help me with it… oh man, she’s bad luck to have being ‘asked’ by me for help…

AND, I’m sure to be extremely blessed to have her help and it just happens that she’s in love with HTML… or probably not… just like HTML…

Well, sure hope to write more articles-like of thingy about life… who knows? I might be a very potential journalist… Ho Ho Ho… but Merry Christmas is not around the corner anymore~…

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

情歌…

時光是琥珀 淚一滴滴被反鎖
情書再不朽 也磨成沙漏
青春的上游 白雲飛走蒼狗與海鷗
閃過的念頭 潺潺的溜走

命運好幽默 讓愛的人都沉默
一整個宇宙 換一顆紅豆
回憶如困獸 寂寞太久而漸漸溫柔
放開了拳頭 反而更自由

慢動作 繾綣膠捲 重播默片 定格一瞬間
我們在 告別的演唱會 說好不再見

長鏡頭 越拉越遠 越來越遠 事隔好幾年
我們在 懷念的演唱會 禮貌的吻別

你寫給我 我的第一首歌
你和我 十指緊扣 默寫前奏
可是那然後呢

還好我有 我這一首情歌
輕輕的 輕輕哼著 哭著笑著
我的 天長地久

陪我唱歌 清唱你的情歌
捨不得 短短副歌 心還熱著
也該告一段落

還好我有 我下一首情歌
生命宛如 靜靜的 相擁的河
永遠 天長地久

Adapted from the song of Fish Leong 梁静茹 < 情歌 >

Saturday, June 6, 2009

寂寞的泪…

这一次我又忘记了改变我自己
这一次我又轻易的相信你是唯一
一次一次聚散分离使我怀疑
世界上没有真正的爱情值得回忆

一次一次告诉自己
伤心往事不该惋惜
一次一次提醒自己
这样的爱情转眼让他过去

但是你寂寞的眼有寂寞的泪
让我忘了改变我的一切
让我在迷惑之中忘了曾经深深的叹息

但是你寂寞的眼有寂寞的泪
让我忘了改变我的一切
让我又不由自主轻易让你飞入我梦里

总在爱过后黯然的分手
让我不能不重头想过
这一次会不会错得更多


Adapted from the song of Emil Chow - < 寂寞的眼 >