Has this situation been on you? Yeah, it’s like you fail something and the people around you always pin you to that failure or mistake… forever~? Oh well, if it’s not forever, or at least till the time you got things right – so called success. Many people are behaving so, or is it more obvious among Asians?

When you didn’t get things right at the first time, it doesn’t mean you can’t get it right next time. Most importantly, you shouldn’t stop trying even no people are convinced with your ability.

This was what happened when Thomas Edison failed for more than 1000 times when he was trying to create the first light bulb. People laughed him he did something impossible; alright, obviously he’s an idiot, why? It’s because he didn’t figure out to replace oxygen (which burn the filament whenever it’s heated) with some other stable gases. But, everybody remember this ‘idiot’ forever, for making it possible of all the bulbs we have these days.

It’s a good lesson to remind us don’t let the what-other-people-think element beats you down. Adapting from what my friend, Juliana said “when you care about what people think of you, you become their slave”, how true of this when you let other people stopping you from getting things right. The success and failure belong to you, not others and you should give birth to success from your failure.

“My father was like that. He never trusted any of my siblings in driving when we just got our license (in different times) as in his mindset, new drivers are sure to cause accident. My brother took initiative and learned to enhance driving via his friend’s car while my elder sister bought a car and learn by herself and my eldest sister instead, just leave things so. In the end, my eldest sister can’t drive totally, as opposite from my brother and elder sister.”

Honestly, I don’t blame people like my father for being conservative because I know everybody has their concerns and mostly, it relates back to financial or safety issues. What I’m trying to say is – when you fail once, it doesn’t have to be forever, the choice is yours to create success.

When you stop trying, you fail forever.